Domestic Violence

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Domestic violence (battering) is a pattern of abusive and coercive behavior used to gain dominance, power, and control over an intimate partner. It includes the use of illegal and legal behaviors and tactics that undermine the victim’s sense of self, free will, and safety. Battering behavior can impact other family members and can be used in other family relationships.

Domestic violence crosses all class, race, lifestyle, and religious lines. The only clear distinction is gender. Most victims of domestic violence are women, and most perpetrators of domestic violence are men. According to the National Institute of Justice, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, and the Bureau of Justice Statistics, women are at significantly greater risk of domestic violence than men. Approximately 1 in 4 women in the U.S. have experienced severe physical violence by an intimate partner at some point in their lifetime. Many academic leaders have identified domestic violence as a major criminal justice, health care, and social issue.

Signs of Domestic Violence

Perpetrators of domestic violence (batterers) use a combination of the following tactics to gain and maintain dominance, power, and control over the victim. Batterers make a choice to use control tactics and violence, including when the violence occurs and the amount of injury inflicted by their acts. Batterers bear sole responsibility for their actions.

Physical violence: Pushing; grabbing; shoving; restraining; kicking; spitting; biting; pulling hair; pinching; hitting; punching; slapping; strangling (choking); cutting; stabbing

Sexual violence: Unwanted touching or fondling; forced sexual contact; rape; accusing her of being unfaithful; humiliating or objectifying her body; restricting her access to reproductive health care; forcing her to engage in unwanted sex acts; threatening to have sex with someone else; coercing her into having sex

Coercion and threats: Making or carrying out threats to do something to hurt her; threatening to leave her, to commit suicide, to report her to welfare, to have her deported or report her to immigration authorities; making her drop charges or not testify; making her do illegal things

Intimidation: Making her afraid by using looks, actions, gestures; destroying her property; abusing pets; displaying weapons

Emotional abuse: Putting her down; calling her names; making her think she’s crazy; playing mind games; humiliating her; making her feel bad about herself; making her feel guilty

Isolation: Controlling what she does, who she sees and talks to, what she reads, where she goes; limiting her outside involvement; using jealousy to justify actions; withholding important documents (immigration paperwork, birth certificates, social security cards)

Using children: Making her feel guilty about the children; using the children to relay messages; using visitation to harass her; threatening to take the children away, to fight for custody, to harm the children; undermining her parenting; teaching the children to treat her with disrespect

Economic abuse: Preventing her from getting or keeping a job; making her ask for money; giving her an allowance; taking her money; not letting her know about or have access to family income

Male privilege/entitlement: Treating her like a servant; making all the big decisions; making all the rules; adhering to strict gender roles and being the one to define men’s and women’s roles

Minimizing, denying, blaming: Making light of the abuse and not taking her concerns about it seriously; saying the abuse didn’t happen; shifting responsibility for abusive behavior; saying she caused the abuse; claiming to be the “real” victim

Considerations for Safety Planning

  • Threats to severely injure or kill her or her children if she leaves
  • Abuser/partner promises he will change
  • Access to transportation
  • Access to communication with friends and family
  • Access to a “safe” place in her home
  • Access to resources and supports
  • Access to affordable housing
  • Access to economic resources
  • Workplace safety (getting to and from work, safety while at work)
  • Cultural, social, or religious beliefs about marriage, families, and children
  • Concerns related to parenting
  • Immigration issues

Safety Planning


Supporting a Victim of Domestic Violence

Learn how you can support a victim of domestic violence.

Kansas Sexual and Domestic Violence Program Map and List

Programs are listed below the map, alphabetically by city. You do not have to live in the city where the program is located to use their services. If you are in need of advocacy services and do not find your community listed, call the 24/7 Kansas Crisis Hotline at 1-888-363-2287.


1. Crisis Center of Dodge City

City: Dodge City
Counties Served: Clark, Ford, Gray, Hodgeman, Meade
Services: Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
Website: http://dodgecitycrisiscenter.com/
Crisis Hotline Number: 620-225-6510 or 1-866-270-2270

 

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2. Family Life Center Safe House

City: El Dorado
Counties Served: Butler, Chautauqua and Elk
Services: Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
Website: https://www.familylifecentersafehouse.com/
Crisis Hotline Number: 800-870-6967 or 316-321-7104

 

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3. SOS, Inc.

City: Emporia
Counties Served: Chase, Coffey, Greenwood, Lyon, Morris, Osage
Services: Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
Website: www.soskansas.com
Crisis Hotline Number: 800-825-1295 or 620-342-1870

 

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4. Family Crisis Services

City: Garden City
Counties Served: Finney, Greeley, Hamilton, Kearny, Lane, Scott, Wichita
Services: Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
Crisis Hotline Number: 620-275-5911

 

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5. Family Crisis Center, Inc.

City: Great Bend
Counties Served: Barber, Barton, Comanche, Edwards, Kiowa, Ness, Pawnee, Pratt, Rush, Stafford
Services: Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
Website: www.familycrisiscntr.org
Crisis Hotline Number: 866-792-1885 or 620-792-1885

 

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6. Options: Domestic and Sexual Violence Services, Inc.

City: Hays
Counties Served: Cheyenne, Decatur, Ellis, Gove, Graham, Logan, Norton, Osborne, Phillips, Rawlins, Rooks, Russell, Sheridan, Sherman, Smith, Thomas, Trego, Wallace
Services: Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
Website: www.help4abuse.org
Crisis Hotline Number: 800-794-4624 or 785-625-4202

 

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7. Sexual Assault/Domestic Violence Center

City: Hutchinson
Counties Served: Harper, Kingman, Reno, Rice
Services: Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
Website: www.sadvchutch.org
Crisis Hotline Number: 800-701-3630 or 620-663-2522

 

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8. Hope Unlimited

City: Iola
Counties Served: Allen, Anderson, Neosho, Woodson
Services: Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
Website: www.hope-unlimited.org
Crisis Hotline Number: 620-365-7566

 

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9. Friends of Yates - Della Gill/Joyce H. Williams Center

City: Kansas City
Counties Served: Wyandotte
Services: Domestic Violence
Website: www.friendsofyates.org
Crisis Hotline Number: 913-321-0951

 

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10. SAFEHOME

City: Kansas City
Counties Served: Johnson, Miami
Services: Domestic Violence
Website: www.safehome-ks.org
Crisis Hotline Number: 888-432-4300 or 913-262-2868

 

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11. MOCSA

City: Kansas City
Counties Served: Johnson, Miami, Wyandotte
Services: Sexual Assault
Website: www.mocsa.org
Crisis Hotline Number: 913-642-0233 or 816-531-0233

 

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12. Mattie Rhodes Center ¡Si Se Puede!

City: Kansas City
Counties Served: Johnson, Wyandotte
Services: Domestic Violence- therapy, service coordination, legal advocacy, staff speak Spanish
Website: http://www.mattierhodes.org
Crisis Hotline Number: 816-241-3780 (not a crisis line)

 

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13. Kansas City Anti-Violence Project (LGBT services)

City: Kansas City
Counties Served: Johnson, Miami, Wyandotte
Services: Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
Website: www.kcavp.org
Crisis Hotline Number: 816-561-0550

 

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14. The Sexual Trauma and Abuse Care Center

City: Lawrence
Counties Served: Douglas, Franklin, Jefferson
Services: Sexual Assault
Website: http://stacarecenter.org
Crisis Hotline Number: 785-843-8985

 

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15. The Willow Domestic Violence Center

City: Lawrence
Counties Served: Douglas, Franklin, Jefferson
Services: Domestic Violence
Website: www.willowdvcenter.org
Crisis Hotline Number: 800-770-3030 or 785-843-3333

 

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16. Alliance Against Family Violence

City: Leavenworth
Counties Served: Atchison, Brown, Doniphan, and Leavenworth
Services: Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
Website: www.aafv1984.com
Crisis Hotline Number: 800-644-1441 or 913-682-9131

 

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17. LARC/DVS, Inc.

City: Liberal
Counties Served: Grant, Haskell, Morton, Seward, Stanton, Stevens
Services: Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
Website: www.larcdvs.org
Crisis Hotline Number: 888-417-7273 or 620-624-8818

 

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18. The Crisis Center, Inc.

City: Manhattan
Counties Served: Clay, Geary, Marshall, Pottawatomie, Riley
Services: Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
Website: www.thecrisiscenterinc.org
Crisis Hotline Number: 800-727-2785 or 785-539-2785

 

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19. PBP Nation - Tribal Victims Services Program

City: Mayetta
Counties Served: Tribal Members of the Prairie Band Potawatomi Tribe
Services: Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
Website: www.pbpindiantribe.com/social-services.aspx
Crisis Hotline Number: 866-966-0173 or 785-966-8330

 

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20. Safehope, Inc.

City: Newton
Counties Served: Harvey, Marion, McPherson
Services: Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
Website: www.safehope.net
Crisis Hotline Number: 800-487-0510 or 316-283-0350

 

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21. Safehouse Crisis Center, Inc.

City: Pittsburg
Counties Served: Bourbon, Cherokee, Crawford, Labette, Linn, Montgomery, Wilson
Services: Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
Website: www.safehousecrisiscenter.org
Crisis Hotline Number: 800-794-9148 or 620-231-8251

 

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22. Domestic Violence Assoc. of Central Kansas

City: Salina
Counties Served: Cloud, Dickinson, Ellsworth, Jewell, Lincoln, Mitchell, Ottawa, Republic, Saline, Washington
Services: Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
Website: www.dvack.org
Crisis Hotline Number: 800-874-1499 or 785-827-5862

 

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23. YWCA Center for Safety and Empowerment

City: Topeka
Counties Served: Jackson, Nemaha, Shawnee, Wabaunsee
Services: Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
Website: www.ywcatopeka.org
Crisis Hotline Number: 888-822-2983 or 785-354-7927

 

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24. Catholic Charities Harbor House

City: Wichita
Counties Served: Sedgwick
Services: Domestic Violence
Website: catholicdioceseofwichita.org
Crisis Hotline Number: 866-899-5522 or 316-263-6000

 

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25. StepStone

City: Wichita
Counties Served: Sedgwick
Services: Domestic Violence
Website: www.stepstoneks.org
Crisis Hotline Number: 316-265-1611

 

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26. Wichita Area Sexual Assault Center

City: Wichita
Counties Served: Cowley, Sedgwick, Sumner
Services: Sexual Assault
Website: www.wichitasac.com
Crisis Hotline Number: 877-927-2248 or 316-263-3002 o español: 316-263-2044

 

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27. Wichita Family Crisis Center

City: Wichita
Counties Served: Cowley, Sedgwick, Sumner
Services: Domestic Violence
Website: wichitafamilycrisiscenter.org
Crisis Hotline Number: 316-267-7233

 

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